Everyone is entitled to try to find a relationship that really works for them, and if you haven’t found it yet, keeping yourself on the journey is essential until you do. It's also important to remember that a relationship that works for you might be as much about you changing as him meeting your criteria. Why? Because one of the things I observe most with my clients is that they’re often confused about being picky and being held hostage by fear. A fear of being seen for who

Part of thriving is looking at every aspect of your life with gratitude - including your singleness. Being single is a choice and there is nothing to fix or rectify. No one is required to be in a relationship. An individual should have a fulfilled and incredible life first. Why? Because it’s only in your singleness that you’re able to become self developed and whole. It’s a fact: we’re wired to connect with others. Think about Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, after physiological

Recently, a client said that she didn't know if the man she was dating would fit in with her dinner club. I sensed she was considering this as a reason to stop dating him. Since we'd worked on a values exercise as part of our coaching, I asked what value that was of hers on which he was stepping. With more thought, she realized it wasn't a value. When you focus on criteria that don't reflect your values, you will spend more time with the wrong person and less time with the ri

Think back on your last five dates and ask yourself what adjectives your dates would use to describe you. Would they say you were engaged, present, interested? Perhaps you spent time telling your friends and family how he came across on the date. I wonder how you came across? Were you interested or interesting? If you want to know the secret to dating well, it’s maximizing your opportunities to be fully engaged and present during the date - whether you want to see him again