Have you ever been in the throes of a great start to a first date and suddenly he tosses out the dreaded question, “Why are you single?” At that moment you can feel your energy level go down a notch. Your body tenses up. Your mind is racing with how to answer in just the right way. You hate this question. Asking someone why he or she is single is the worst question you can ask on a first date. What’s important about knowing this anyway? It goes without saying that many haven’
It sounds boring, but, the man who is marriage-minded is actually looking for a truly nice woman. Nice is the woman who epitomizes kind, thoughtful and empathetic. She can’t say she’s these things. A man is extracting information from her gestures and comments. It’s how she treats others in small ways which a man observes throughout the course of his dating or relationship experience with her - even when she’s not aware she’s being observed. There’s such a thing as being too
You want to meet a high-quality man. But, would you know him when you see him? If you have a history of focusing on things such as must have a college degree, earn a certain income and be at least 6' in height as examples, it's an indicator that you’ve likely missed countless opportunities to meet a high-quality man. In your journey to find your most aligned partner, focusing instead on these six attributes will lead you quickly to the high-quality man you deserve. 1. He’s co
One of my offerings as a dating coach is working with clients to write their online dating profile or helping people craft a better essay with my worksheets. There are many things that people write in their essays that make them ineffective. I want you to be effective. The most obvious is when they sound alike. How many women are equally comfortable in a little black dress and a pair of jeans? And who really cares? It doesn’t say much about you. Another top offender is “I fee
Although Cupid’s intentions are pure, he causes a lot of anxiety each year. Especially for the single crowd. Instead of celebrating love, or the mere possibility of it, Valentine’s Day gets a bad rap. “Singles Awareness Day” becomes the most dreaded day of the year for those not spoken for, cluttered with tattered hearts and boxes of tissues. This year, let's switch our mindset and embrace the day with gratitude. Now that I have the viewpoint of being joyfully in love with my
For those who know me I have a consistent positive demeanor. I make it a practice of having an attitude of gratitude. It is an extremely rare day that I lament about what may not be going my way. That’s why several years ago my friends and family became very concerned about me. I was sad for weeks and months. I was not the same Nicole everyone knew. I had no awareness of how sad I had become. I had ended a serious relationship with someone I thought I might marry. Always one
I’m often asked by my clients which online dating sites are the best ones. There a lot of choices plus now there are dating apps. Considering the evolution of technology in recent years it can be overwhelming. You ask, “Which one has the quality men who are age appropriate living in my city? Which one will I get the most responses?” I liken it to asking, “At what gym do you lose the most weight? Is it Equinox, 24 Hour Fitness or Gold’s Gym?” Some gyms do have better equipment
Recently, a client said that she didn't know if the man she was dating would fit in with her dinner club. I sensed she was considering this as a reason to stop dating him. Since we'd worked on a values exercise as part of our coaching, I asked what value that was of hers on which he was stepping. With more thought, she realized it wasn't a value. When you focus on criteria that don't reflect your values, you will spend more time with the wrong person and less time with the ri
Those fantastic fairy tales we grew up with - Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty and, each with their Prince Charming. Fairy tales are great when we're six years old.
As we got older, parts of those fairy tales stuck in our brain and sabotaged what can be possible with an actual human being in front of us.
Phrases like "the one," "meant to be" and "happily ever after."
As if our handsome prince will save us from boredom, loneliness, and mopping the floor.
Women have fall
One thing that frustrates all women when they’re out there dating is when a man doesn’t call after a seemingly great date. Does this sound familiar? You went on an amazing date. You completely clicked. You had a great time. He said he would call and you knew he would because he liked you as much as you liked him. Finally, maybe you get to rest. You exhale because he’s going to call. But, then he doesn’t call and he should’ve called. Suddenly our inner critic starts to talk. S