Fairy Tales That Prevent Us From Happily Ever After
Those wonderful fairy tales we grew up with - Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty and each with their Prince Charming. Fairy tales are great when we’re six years old.
As we got older parts of those fairy tales stuck in our brain and sabotaged what can be possible with an actual human being in front of us.
Phrases like “the one”, “meant to be” and “happily ever after.”
As if our handsome prince will save us from boredom, loneliness and mopping the floor.
Women have fallen prey to the fairy tale syndrome which, in turn, leads to an attitude of, dare I say, entitlement.
She says, “I’m entitled to my fairy tale ending. Why would I ever go online to date because all I need to do is wait? I don’t need to put any effort into dating.”
The fairy tale syndrome continues to prevent us from living a happily ever after life because these phrases are in our conversations. For example, some women will discount a man if there are no sparks or chemistry on a first meeting saying, “It’s not meant to be.”
I’m not suggesting that a woman should settle. The problem, though, with this in the back of our mind is that we think he’s coming. He’ll just show up and we don’t have to do any work. It’s not always true for everyone.
As further evidence, I have heard some women say, “I don’t want to go on any dates. I don’t want to do online dating. I just want to meet him.”
Who you have available to you in the real world is around you. If you work from home as many do today, it’s the UPS driver or the checker at Whole Foods.
Online dating is where men go to meet women. This is where you have his attention. He’s focused on getting a date with you and having a relationship with you.
Fact: did you know that online dating sites experience a 20% increase in new subscriptions in the fall? In the season of cuffing, or the colder months, it seems to be a declaration for many - finding a romantic partner.
I’d love to support you through the process of either writing a new profile or fine tuning your current one. I know the language that speaks to men in online dating profiles and the photos that pique their interest.
Creating a unique profile that is appealing and reflective of your best self is how I’ve helped many clients. It’s about being effective. I can help you be effective in attracting quality men with a profile that will draw them to you.
You’ll get coaching from an expert who’s been there, and done it. Worksheets and exercises so that the essence of you is captured in the profile.
Sure, you can do this anytime. But, you will start behind and my personal and professional experience tells me that means you will get behind and give up. Therefore, no great profile ready for the fall. Just sayin’.
Here’s to starting off fall right - in more ways than one!
What do you think of fairy tale endings? Post a comment below and I'll meet you there.