The REAL Truth About Attracting The Wrong Men
How many times have you said to yourself or told others that you attract the wrong men?
Maybe you ask, “Is there some sort of label on my forehead that reads, ‘All losers come to me.’?”
I’m going to be provocative and suggest that you don’t ATTRACT the wrong men.
You ACCEPT the wrong men.
Trust me, I’ve had my share of narcissistic and emotionally unavailable men.
I thought I had an invisible sign hanging around my neck with a red carpet invitation to come into my life.
Consider these scenarios:
The man who becomes enraged because his recreational softball team lost the game to their opponent - you didn’t ATTRACT him - you ACCEPTED him.
The man who becomes verbally abusive when the topic of being respectful of your time comes up and there’s no way to reasonably communicate with him - you didn’t ATTRACT him - you ACCEPTED him.
The chemistry’s great, though, right?
You’ve made an investment in the relationship and the thought of having to start over again is daunting.
You don’t want to be alone again.
Men are great teachers for who we are being.
When we don’t love ourselves deeply, we unconsciously keep love away by creating stories within that actually repels love and keeps it away.
These stories or, self-limiting beliefs show up, to name a few, as “I’m not lovable, good enough, or worthy enough.”
It’s like a terrorist living inside who controls your beliefs which, in turn, drives your emotions and resulting behaviors.
So, you’d think that lack of self love would repel everyone. But that’s not the case. When we don’t love ourselves enough, we still attract partners – just not the right ones.
We simply attract other people who don’t love themselves, as well.
And since deep inside we don’t believe we deserve to be loved completely, we end up pushing away the very love we want.
When you love and accept yourself deeply and unconditionally for all that you are and aren’t, you attract people who love themselves.
That’s where the magic begins - loving yourself means not accepting bad behavior from the wrong men.
Your job is not to hang in there because he may need your support.
Your job is to leave.
Take your fears as a sign to pay attention to something.
Attracting the love you want can be easier than you thought when you discover the barriers you have created and take them down one-by-one.
This is the work I do with my clients to attract love from the inside out.
You will always attract all kinds of men.
But, once you’ve taken down the crosses from your heart that keep you from being open to receiving love, your way of attracting the kind of man you want in your life will change and open up new possibilities.
Who are you attracting? Where are you selling yourself short in love? Post a comment below and I'll meet you there.