The world of dating has turned upside down since I first dipped my toe in the internet dating pond. But there are some things that won’t change. By nature and how we are socialized, women fall into traps that make them ineffective daters and relationship partners.

Whether you’re dating online (which you should be in order to achieve optimal dating) and/or meeting men organically, it’s in your best...

Recently, a client said that she didn't know if the man she was dating would fit in with her dinner club. I sensed she was considering this as a reason to stop dating him. 

Since we'd worked on a values exercise as part of our coaching, I asked what value that was of hers on which he was stepping. With more thought, she realized it wasn't a value. 

When you focus on criteria that don't reflect your...

Those fantastic fairy tales we grew up with - Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty and, each with their Prince Charming. Fairy tales are great when we're six years old.

As we got older, parts of those fairy tales stuck in our brain and sabotaged what can be possible with an actual human being in front of us.

Phrases like "the one," "meant to be" and "happily ever after."

As if our handsome prince will save...

Do you know the qualities that inspire a man to give his heart fully to a woman? 

To inspire means to fill or affect with a specified feeling, thought, etc. When a man is inspired by a woman he will pursue or commit to her, depending on where he is in relationship to her. 

Here are five traits that a woman embodies that make a man feel inspired: 

1.  First and foremost, your femininity inspi...

"Whatever you are willing to put up with is exactly what you will have." ~Anon

I admit that like a lot of women I have struggled with boundaries in the past.

I lacked the appropriate discernment to put fitting boundaries in place with friends, family,

co-workers and especially men in love.  

Ultimately, I did the inner work needed in order to be able to have healthy boundaries. There are certain thi...

When I was in my 20s if the guy I was dating suddenly disappeared I had to have closure. Just like that - he stopped calling.  Everything seemed to be going along fine. 

We were enjoying each other’s company.  I was attracted to him.  I made myself available when he called to ask me out.  I was doing all the right things in dating or, so I thought.  

I would drive my sister...

It sounds boring, but, the man who is marriage-minded is actually looking for a truly nice woman. Nice is the woman who epitomizes kind, thoughtful and empathetic. She can’t say she’s these things. 

A man is extracting information from her gestures and comments. It’s how she treats others in small ways which a man observes throughout the course of his dating or relationship experience wi...