For those who know me I have a consistent positive demeanor. I make it a practice of having an attitude of gratitude. It is an extremely rare day that I lament about what may not be going my way. That’s why several years ago my friends and family became very concerned about me. I was sad for weeks and months. I was not the same Nicole everyone knew I had no awareness of how sad I had become. I had ended a serious relationship with someone I thought I might marry. Always one

How many times have you said to yourself or told others that you attract the wrong men? Maybe you ask, “Is there some sort of label on my forehead that reads, ‘All losers come to me.’?” I’m going to be provocative and suggest that you don’t ATTRACT the wrong men. You ACCEPT the wrong men. Trust me, I’ve had my share of narcissistic and emotionally unavailable men. I thought I had an invisible sign hanging around my neck with a red carpet invitation to come into my life. Consi

In the early 2000s I was skeptical of online dating even though I had some friends who were trying it out. Not to mention the frequent stigma of meeting someone online kept me from signing up. Finally, after enough testimonials from these same friends I decided to give it a try. Here’s what happened on my inaugural attempt at meeting the love of my life: If I received an email from a guy who sounded reasonably smart, kind and sweet I was excited. If he was creative and we sha

I have learned that if you think too much about anything, you’ll never do it. Why is that? Because there are always plenty of reasons to fear what could happen. There’s no shortage of the downside to any new direction. You might worry about: What if he doesn’t like me? What if I don’t find anyone? What if I get hurt again? What if it’s too late for me? What if I had the love I was supposed to have and now it's over? What if I’m not healthy enough? But, what If you had the sam